Category Archives: Anxiety

Controlling your anxiety

Many of us suffer from some type of anxiety.  I am aware that my lack of planning causes me a lot of anxiety. Here are some tips that can assist us with stress and anxiety by drawing on your inner strengths:

 

  • Have three mental inboxes in your head.

    •  Things that I “can control”. Things “I can control with help” and: Things that “I cannot control”.  Mentally assign the “can’t control” things to the requisite box.  What is the point of worrying about things that you cannot control?  All it down is paralyze and dis-empower you. Assign them to the powers that be. It will allow you to feel much lighter and assist you to proceed with other things

  • Are you good at planning?

    •  Have you ever thought of planning to prevent anxiety?  Plan for tomorrow, for that big appointment, even do a bit of practice.  If you feel really prepared, you will stress less.  Spend a bit of time at the end of each day to plan the following day!  Most of my stress emanates from my lack of planning or my bad habit of running a “little” late. 

  • What about an attitude of gratitude?

    • Anxiety often occurs when you feel that “life is out of control”?  How about writing down some of things that you are grateful for.  You probably have strengths that you are not aware of. If you focus on your strengths, instead of focusing on your weaknesses, you will feel more empowered.

  • Practice mindfulness

    •  If we constantly focus on the tasks at hand, without letting other thoughts intrude, we immediately feel calmer and more in control.  There are many good books about that can teach you the technique.  It really works…

  • Look at what is making you anxious and frame it differently.

    •  Are you starting to let your thoughts run away with you?  Is the situation really that difficult? Or have you just fallen into the habit of giving in to stress.  Dissect it and break the task down into small chunks.

  • Call on friends, mentors or counsellors

    •  to assist you with anxiety management techniques – sharing a problem often helps to bring one back to reality.

  • Forgive yourself

    • if you do fail – learn the lesson – and then move on. 

 

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